Add v12 + v13 cuda support (#12000)

* Add support for upcoming NVIDIA Jetsons

The latest Jetsons with JetPack 7 are moving to an SBSA compatible model and
will not require building a JetPack specific variant.

* cuda: bring back dual versions

This adds back dual CUDA versions for our releases,
with v11 and v13 to cover a broad set of GPUs and
driver versions.

* win: break up native builds in build_windows.ps1

* v11 build working on windows and linux

* switch to cuda v12.8 not JIT

* Set CUDA compression to size

* enhance manual install linux docs

.github/workflows/test.yaml

@@ -46,7 +46,7 @@ jobs:
         include:
           - preset: CPU
           - preset: CUDA
-            container: nvidia/cuda:12.8.1-devel-ubuntu22.04
+            container: nvidia/cuda:13.0.0-devel-ubuntu22.04
             flags: '-DCMAKE_CUDA_ARCHITECTURES=87'
           - preset: ROCm
             container: rocm/dev-ubuntu-22.04:6.1.2
@@ -78,7 +78,7 @@ jobs:
         include:
           - preset: CPU
           - preset: CUDA
-            install: https://developer.download.nvidia.com/compute/cuda/12.8.0/local_installers/cuda_12.8.0_571.96_windows.exe
+            install: https://developer.download.nvidia.com/compute/cuda/13.0.0/local_installers/cuda_13.0.0_windows.exe
             flags: '-DCMAKE_CUDA_ARCHITECTURES=80'
           - preset: ROCm
             install: https://download.amd.com/developer/eula/rocm-hub/AMD-Software-PRO-Edition-24.Q4-WinSvr2022-For-HIP.exe
@@ -102,7 +102,7 @@ jobs:
           $ErrorActionPreference = "Stop"
           if ("${{ steps.cache-install.outputs.cache-hit }}" -ne 'true') {
             Invoke-WebRequest -Uri "${{ matrix.install }}" -OutFile "install.exe"
-            Start-Process -FilePath .\install.exe -ArgumentList (@("-s", "cudart_12.8", "nvcc_12.8", "cublas_12.8", "cublas_dev_12.8")) -NoNewWindow -Wait
+            Start-Process -FilePath .\install.exe -ArgumentList (@("-s", "cudart_13.0", "nvcc_13.0", "cublas_13.0", "cublas_dev_13.0")) -NoNewWindow -Wait
           }
 
           $cudaPath = (Resolve-Path "C:\Program Files\NVIDIA GPU Computing Toolkit\CUDA\*").path